How do you know when you have an impact on people?
Yesterday, I was reading a random article that I found on Facebook (and I forgot to bookmark it). It was taken from a letter sent by a grandmother to a her granddaughter, and contained a list of tips about life. Many lists like that exists, but there was one point that caught me :
Don’t measure your impact on people on what you do for them, but on how they change because of what you did or said to them…
Indeed, we tend to have the wrong expectations, thinking we will be rewarded for favours we did to other, for advice we provided them with, via direct gestures of recognition.
Well… it’s time to reconsider!
When your friends mention ‘you’d have been so proud of me’ then, you may not remember, but what they did is probably linked to something you tell them. People don’t want you to decide things for them (although sometimes they do), or to tell them they are wrong, but rather listen to them and help them think about things differently…
So off you go, stop complaining about ungrateful people, and start listening more