People wait all week for Friday, all year for summer, and all life for Happiness

Yesterday, I was talking with a friend, and we were discussing how his life is going, and how much he has managed to achieve lately, by focusing on what is important. Then we moved on his latest frustration, and I asked him ‘ What is your goal? Where do you see yourself going?’

(OK – this is a question I am personally unable to answer most of the time, but I usually have a general idea, and always a good answer if it is for a recruiter!)

He told me: ‘I want to be happy, to live a happy life’

And there… I stopped.

BEING HAPPY IS NOT A GOAL!!! Happiness is a feeling, it’s not something you achieve! It happens when you have more positive emotions and negative emotions, it’s a state that can last more or less time, but by NO means is it something you reach…

Here’s the common misconception (directly copied from here)

It’s easy for people to think that they’ll be happy once something they want happens. This is usually not the case, however. People are not very good at predicting how happy (or sad) an event will make them or for how long. We are very good at adapting to changing circumstances, so even though we may be happier for a short time, we often revert back to our prior levels of happiness. Happier people are ones who tend to enjoy the journey, cultivating relationships and positive emotions along the way.

If you believe that you will be happy once you get this new car, once you finish paying your mortgage, or once Pharrell Williams comes to serenade ‘Happy‘ to your private home… then think twice: it will not make you happier. 

Thinking about it… My friend realised that he already had everything to be happy: a roof to sleep under, a lovely girlfriend, a drink in his hand whilst sitting at a sunny bar terrace…

Conclusion: you can be happy right here right now, just look around you and you will see !

In my own little world of clumsiness and forgetfulness, I can say I am happy when

– I don’t break or drop anything

– when I do a last minute catch on a glass that was ready to get off the table

– when it’s sunny

– when I manage to get in my house even though I forgot my key (by borrowing the neighbor’s ladder and forcing open the first floor kitchen window…)

– and many more… just type ‘Happiness’ in Google Image search and get inspired :)

What about you???

Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do